Parent messaging me at night about her children's grades

First off, I'm a teacher in Europe, and I teach English as a foreign language in elementary. I basically teach all elementary students, grades 1-4. It's my 8th year teaching so I have my methods that work, etc, I know what I'm doing by now. On Thursday night, I got a loooong text on facebook messenger (that in itself is highly unprofessional) from a parent whose children I teach, one in 2nd and one in 4th grade. She berated me, said that none of her children get what we are doing in class, they can't form basic sentences in English, they don't know the basics and I am incompetent as a teacher. She asked what I am planning to do so that her children could catch up because she, as a mother of 3, doesn't have the time to teach them and feels it is not her job. I got really pissed off because neither of her children are active in my class, they are just sitting there, never asking for more clarification, never asking questions. I see their grades aren't great, but I don't see anything from them wanting to get better. I asked their other teachers and they're not doing well in other subjects either. They're not failing in my class, they get Cs and Ds (translated into the American system - for us 5 is the best, 1 is failing). Most of my students are great, some are not but they try. These 2 seemingly don't even care. And while I'm not a parent myself, I know plenty who have 3 or more children, where both parents work (this one is a sahm) and they still have time to help their children learn at home. I don't think it's impossible to check if your children are ready for upcoming tests, and God forbid quiz them about the contents they're learning. Anyway, I only answered back that we can talk about it in person, after spring break, in my office hours which I informed her about. If I ever leave this profession it won't be because of disruptive students, or gossiping collagues or a bad admin - it'll be because of parents like these. She wasn't the first one and I'm sure she won't be the last. Thanks for letting me rant. submitted by /u/snikinail [link] [comments]